Most decisions are made by defaults, not by choice — the work is converting automatic reactions into deliberate ones.
The reframe that makes the rest of Parrish’s book work: by the time you know you’re deciding, the field of options has already been narrowed by something that wasn’t reasoning. So the leverage isn’t in the choosing, it’s upstream.
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← has exampleEgo, emotion, social pressure, and inertia hijack a decision before reasoning ever starts.
The four named defaults are the concrete inventory behind the abstract claim.
← requiresBetween stimulus and response there is a space, and skill is widening it enough to step into on purpose.You cannot convert a default into a choice without first having somewhere to stand while you do it.